Sun not helping Jacqui Janes - Misplaced Anger of Max Mosley

There seems to be a lot of misplaced anger around today. Jacqui Janes, the mother of Jamie Janes who lost his life in Afghanistan is, rightly, angry at the premature death of her son who was only 20 when he bled to death.
Yet it seems she’s being egged on by the Sun newspaper to lash out at the Prime Minister for his spelling mistakes. It’s quite clear that nothing could make her feel better at the moment. It’s also obvious that when someone writes a letter of condolence they should strive to get the spelling correct – or start again. Crossings out simply won’t do at times of raw grief such as this.
However, I would suggest that Mrs Janes isn’t exactly being helped through her grief by the Sun. Of course she’s angry, and it’s often very useful during grief to be able to express anger, to get it out rather than keeping it inside to fester. But if the Sun continue to encourage her to direct all her anger at one man, she’ll most likely end up embittered anyway for there’s nothing Gordon Brown can possibly say that will make her feel any better.

http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/video/article300101.ece?vxSiteId=6247211d-66e0-4454-b73a-3f1610efa39a&vxChannel=Sun%20Exclusive&vxClipId=1347_SUN27343&vxBitrate=300


She should surely be encouraged, instead to have some proper emotional support, some counselling possibly, to allow her to express her angerin a safe place at all the agencies that may have contributed to her son’s death. She probably needs the time and space also to explore her own range of feelings which may include guilt at having ‘allowed’ her son to join the army and go to war even though she can’t possibly be held responsible; and her helplessness in the face of such a huge loss which is clearly having a dramatic and tragic impact on her life.
With help like that, she’s more likely to be able, eventually not to get over Jamie’s death, but to become more accepting of it and be able to get on with the rest of her life. If she doesn’t, she’s likely to be in for a tempestuous time ahead and her health is bound to suffer.

The other example of misplaced anger - on a much more trivial scale – is that of Max Mosley, who once again, it seems is railing at everyone and everything except himself.
He’s apparently challenging the law of privacy in the European court of human rights in Strasbourg.
His argument as ever is this: “I think it’s wrong in a civilised society that a tabloid editor can destroy a family and wreck a life without being answerable to anybody.”
It never seems to occur to him that he destroyed his family and wrecked his life by his own actions. He was the one who deceived his family and lived a lie. But it’s the newspapers who are guilty of wrecking everything for him!!
It’s a very common that when someone feels deeply guilty or ashamed of their own actions that they try to deflect criticism away from themselves and cast blame onto others instead. But doesn’t he realise that he’s only drawing more and more attention to his past actions, to his kinky sex-life, and to his inability to accept that he was the one who messed up.