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Dilys Morgan
I'm Dilys Morgan and I'm a broadcaster-turned agony aunt. This blog will see me posting regular thoughts on all manner of things, and attempting to deal with the emotional minefield that is the modern world. Do get in touch with any problems on which you'd like advice, or to secure the services of a broadcast agony aunt.
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Dilys Morgan
4 comments:
thanks for the comment Dily, i never did understand the fear some people have when it comes to speaking out. Brought up being really outgoing and outspoken i couldn't comprehend what is it that make people shy, particularly my sisters. Maybe i am being hard but then shouldn't they try to come out and get over it?
I think you'll find most shy people are always trying to 'get over it'.....! But simply going out doesn't solve any problems for it just puts them out there where their biggest fears are. Which is why it feels safer/safest to stay at home and not run the risk of meeting any new people. Because then they'd feel put on the spot.
However, you're so right in thinking that getting out and about is a step they have to take in order to get better. Facing the fear, really, and finding that it's not always as bad as you might expect is part of the process of getting better. I usually encourage shy people to pick the place where they feel most comfortable...in other words a place that doesn't feel too terrifyingly challenging...and try to go with a good friend. The idea is to take small steps, one at a time with as much help and support as they can get...and see how it goes. Sometimes they're nicely surprised. Othertimes they can view it as practise at least. For, after all, the more you do something the easier it becomes. And the more familiar you can get with strange places the fewer terros they'll hold.
may i use ur comment in my blog? i would like to share this newfound knowledge with my peers :)
Sure...go ahead....I'm always up for things I've learned being passed on....never know who you might help along the way!
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